Parenthood

Please not, this is sorta a free form rant, might make sense might not, might offend, dont care



When did parenthood become an elective?  When did it become ok to ship your children off to a relatives house because "they stress you out".  How can you justify not caring or putting your desires and comfort above your kids?
I cannot and I will not let my kids feel that way.  My kids, regardless of the circumstances, are my focus, they are everything to me and I find the way some parents are to be incomprehnsable.
Children are the future, you have all heard that but have you thought of that?  Not what they may become, or if they become famous but the small things.  Knowing that when your child is out he or she will be polite, courteous, kind, and thoughful.
Children pick up and emulate what they see, if they see a promiscuous mother who has told them she doesnt want to be thier mother that is something they will never, ever forget.  If they have a father who breaks every promise, they will remember that.
So I'm back again to parents.  If you can't be a parent, or you don't want to be there are choices, adoption, birth control, and even (although not something I would consider) abortion.
all of these would be better for a child then to be raised by an abusive (which is what you are when you ignore your kids, or put yourself before your children) parent.  This goes for all parents.  I myself have been a great father in my view, but I let my children suffer in an unstable abusive home for many many years and did nothing.  I am correcting that now, but I always fear it came to late and to make matters worse it seems as if I'm attacked from every angle, anything to make me seem the bad parent, or to make others seem to be a better parent.  I got some news for ya folks, most kids are not stupid, they know when you are bribing them, playing them, lying to them.  They may not make a fuss about it, they are kids after all and as far as they are concerned you are the center of thier world.  They will remember and they will grow up.  Then you have to deal with the reprecussions of your actions.
The role of parent is a gift, and you can appreciate that gift for what it is, or you can resent that the gift requires work.
Note I understand there are circumstances that force parents to live apart from thier children, to these people I feel for you and this rant was not written for you, sorry.  This is about the parents that willing choose to be a bad parent or role model, this is for the people that decide its better to kick your children out of the house so your boyfriend can move in, or that you need a triple tall mocha instead of a decent meal for the kids, or you need to get some new lingere instead of getting your kids glasses.
And to those parents i say wholeheartedly and with vigor, Fuck You, you are not worth the air you breathe and definatly don't deserve the unconditional love your children will give you until they mature.